What is this?
Nice White Ladies consists of this website, a Facebook page that posts anti-racist resources from around the web, and a secret Facebook group where members can guide and support one another.
Okay but, how do I fix racism now?
If you're looking to do some really deep anti-racism work, there is no better resource than Safety Pin Box.
Yes, you read that right.
If you're ready to jump in, be uncomfortable and actually change, do not come to us. Go to Safety Pin Box*. Many of our members are Safety Pin Box subscribers and the education they provide is absolutely unparalleled. (*Please note that Safety Pin Box is not affiliated with Nice White Ladies. We just really like them and want to give them a shout out).
Other things you can do:
- Diversify your media. We recommend The Establishment, and a subscription will help keep them going.
- Talk to your family and friends about white supremacy. Talk about it on social media. Share things, post things, comment on things, interrupt racism when you see it.
- Change your spending habits. Put some money into the communities doing anti-racist work. Historically black women have been leading these movements. Donating to Black Women Being is a great way to support the folks who are doing this work.
- If all of this just seems overwhelming and confusing and what you really need is a space to gather your thoughts and get some perspective, then we can help you.
Where did this come from?
You can read about the genesis of the group here.
Who's running this?
Well, that depends on how you look at it. While the group was brought together by Erynn Brook, many of the members have taken on mentorship roles. We also have several black folks and people of colour operating within the group as advisors, giving their perspective and education where they see fit.
Why "Nice White Ladies"?
Nice White Lady Syndrome affects all sorts of people, not just white women.
We use the term "Nice White Ladies" as a privilege check, remembering that's where many of us came from and that we will always have to work to avoid the impulse to provide charity instead of support. It's a way for us to remind ourselves that well-meaning white folks are behind the curve when it comes to racial justice conversations, and that we have a lot of work to do.
Have you thought about changing the name...?
Nope. It's Nice White Ladies because that's what we are. But we've heard several suggestions so let's examine this.
"Nice": there is often concern that we are self-identifying as allies. This is not the purpose of the word "nice". In this case nice refers to the double edged sword of compassionate care that many North American women are socialized to perform. This leads to charity and overzealous impulses to "fix" things rather than support existing resistance movements. It also socializes them to avoid discussing sensitive topics such as racism.
"White": white folks need to get comfortable calling themselves white. Not in a pride way, in a way that recognizes white privilege and white supremacy.
"Ladies": does not denote gender, it's an attitude. Many white folks shut down in the face of confrontation. We work to circumvent this reflex by bringing people in and allowing them the space to work through their discomfort. We work to find ways to bring up racism in our everyday lives and make it part of the conversation, even in "polite company".
Nice White Lady Syndrome is a real thing and the name of the group recognizes what we are. It's tongue-in-cheek, and it's a lot catchier than "Well intentioned, non-confrontational, female presenting or non-binary folks looking to understand white privilege and to dismantle white supremacy and support the movement in any way we can."
I'm a person of color and...
Thank you for your feedback. This form will connect you directly to Erynn who will be happy to answer any questions, comments, or concerns about any aspect of the group. We also welcome PoC advisors for our content, as group accountability experts, or just to keep in touch and see what we're up to.